How to reject someone politely

[fatoza]

There's someone who loves me and wants us to be together, but I don't want to for many reasons. He's persistent, and the problem is I've made him wait, telling him I need time to think, but I still don't want to. I need help with a good response to him. He's a kind person, to be honest.

 

[Princessbaddie]

(idk ur reasonings but imma give u a guide)

“Hey,( or whatever ur chosen greeting) I know we’ve been talking about this for a while and I really care about you but I just don’t think it would be good for us to get into a relationship with eachother.”

Then u can add “ sometimes you do X,Y, Z and it doesn’t align with what I’m looking for in a relationship”

End with “but you’re still a good friend, and I want to keep being friends” (or however u want to end it)

Hope this helps!

 

[Superstar23]

There's someone who loves me and wants us to be together, but I don't want to for many reasons. He's persistent, and the problem is I've made him wait, telling him I need time to think, but I still don't want to. I need help with a good response to him. He's a kind person, to be honest.

I think it’s okay to say no, even if he’s a kind and good person. You don’t have to be with someone just because they love you. If you’ve already had time to think about it and you still don’t want a relationship, it’s probably better to be honest with him now rather than keep him waiting.
You can just tell him that you appreciate his feelings, but you don’t feel the same way and don’t want a relationship. You don’t have to come up with a perfect reason or feel guilty about it. Your feelings are enough
And if part of the problem is that you’re still trying to understand your own feelings and what you really want, I recently came across this short article about self-discovery and found the idea pretty relevant to situations like this: https://lila-game.net/en/blog/what-is-self-discovery/
Sometimes you just need to be honest with yourself first.